THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES

Love is universal, but the way we give and receive it is deeply personal. We all interpret love differently, and understanding these differences can make all the difference in how we connect with our partners.

If you’ve heard of the Five Love Languages, you already know they serve as a guide to understanding how someone experiences love best—whether through words, touch, time, thoughtful actions, or gifts. And with Valentine’s Day just around the corner, there’s no better way to make your significant other feel special than by speaking their love language.

Knowing your partner’s love language not only helps you pick the perfect gift but also shows that you truly see them—that you understand what makes them feel valued, cherished, and adored. After all, isn’t that the essence of love?

So, if you’re ready to make this Valentine’s Day extra special, let’s break down the Five Love Languages and how you can express love in a way that resonates deeply with your partner.

WORDS OF AFFIRMATION

Don’t be afraid to say it!

For someone whose love language is Words of Affirmation, hearing and reading words of love is essential. A simple "I love you" isn’t just a phrase—it’s reassurance, comfort, and the foundation of their emotional security. Compliments, words of encouragement, and affectionate notes can mean everything to them.

It’s the perfect time for a classic handwritten love letter, a heartfelt one telling your partner everything you adore about them. If that sounds a little too daunting (we know how difficult writing can be!), leaving them sweet notes to find throughout the day can be a thoughtful surprise. You may also gift them a personalized gift with a special message. Bonus points if it's something your partner will use every day like a journal, jewelry or keychain so they can be reminded of your affections again and again.

PHYSICAL TOUCH

A touch can say so much.

For this love language, affection isn’t just a preference—it’s a necessity. Holding hands, cuddling, hugs, and kisses aren’t just gestures; they’re deep expressions of love and connection. They are crucial to make this type of partner feel seen and secure. It’s never a bad plan to surprise them with an unexpected hug. Offering them a relaxing massage can melt their stress and their hearts too. Being intentional about small but meaningful touches like holding hands while walking, resting your head on their shoulder or just a spontaneous kiss can mean the world to them.

QUALITY TIME

Your presence is the present.

For those who value Quality Time, undivided attention is the greatest gift. It’s not just about being physically present—it’s about being truly present, engaged, and intentional with your time together. For couples that already live together, it might not be too obvious but if you try to set aside alone time with no screens or phones in the way, you will realize that it makes a lot of difference. Plan a romantic getaway in a remote location. Take a cooking or pottery class together. Or just disconnect from the rest of the world for a while and your connections with each other can be strengthened in the process.

ACTS OF SERVICE

Actions speak louder than words.

For someone whose love language is Acts of Service, effort and initiative mean everything. Love isn’t just about saying the right words—it’s about showing up and doing the little things that make their life easier and happier. Something as simple as cooking dinner or running errands are appreciated as thoughtful gestures. For special occasions, take it up a notch by planning a romantic picnic with a charcuterie board or maybe breakfast in bed with their favorite coffee. Pay attention, anticipate their needs and they will feel like royalty.

GIFT GIVING

It’s the thought that counts.

A partner whose love language is Gift Giving isn’t materialistic—they simply appreciate tangible tokens of love that show you were thinking of them. It’s not about the price tag; it’s about the meaning behind the gift. While flowers, chocolates and perfume are classics, a little extra thought can lead to a ton of choices. Being aware of their interests can help, maybe it’s luxurious candles, concert tickets or jewelry they really want but would never buy for themselves. Remember any token of affection makes more of an impact if it’s meaningful to them.

LOVE IS A LANGUAGE.

PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT.

Understanding your partner’s love language fosters deeper connection, better communication, and a relationship built on genuine understanding. And here’s a little secret: the best way to show love isn’t just through grand gestures on special occasions—it’s in the everyday moments, the little surprises, and the thoughtful details that make them feel cherished all year long.

So, whether it’s a handwritten note, a tight embrace, an act of kindness, uninterrupted time together, or a well-chosen gift, let your love language shine this Valentine’s Day—and every day after that.